Kamjah .. The Chronicles

Fear is an incredibly powerful emotion.  It’s part of our emotional range as an indicator to ‘pay attention’.   For many though, fear is interpreted as a feeling of extreme discomfort and in some cases physical and mental paralysis. 

How could such a useful emotion go so wrong in so many people?  The not so surprising truth is that most people  associate toward the negative side of fear rather then the positive.  Fear was intended as a positive emotion, not one that is meant to limit our range for emotional and physical experience.

How to deal with fear:

When I’m working with clients on this specific emotion we go one of two ways and on special occasion sometimes both ways.  Those ways are: physical experience (face the fear) and NLP.

I suggest changing the way you look at fear all together.  Remind yourself that fear is nothing but a sign to pay attention as there is no need to associate any negative feelings.

Ever hear the saying “fear of the unknown”?   When we know something and understand it then we no longer fear it, but to understand something we must first be willing to explore it.  For example remember the first time you drove a car?  For many the first time was scary, but the more times you summoned up the courage to get behind the wheel and practice the more experience you gained and the less scary it became to the point where it may have become second nature.  One real way to get over your fears is to use courage and go out and do things that frighten you.   Through using courage you’ll get experience and then be left with wisdom where at that point you will no longer have the fear you set out to remove but merely an action followed up by a consequence.  On a basic level that breaks down to:  courage leads to exploration which leads to experience which leads to wisdom.  Wouldn’t you agree that having wisdom is better then the alternative?  

The other way to deal with handling specific fears is through Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP).  Using NLP we able to isolate the specific fears and eliminate them one by one, and in some cases groups at a time.  For most people one or two NLP sessions are all that are needed.  Imagine in a matter of minutes being completely rid of your fear of spiders, fear of the ocean, or some other fear you have?  NLP can do that. 

A few examples of common fears:

Fear of the ocean
Fear of spiders
Many men fear approaching women
Fear of the dark
Fear of death (this is a fear to understand and become at peace with..not go our and experience )

Now take a moment to think about the fears holding you back in your life. Do they make logical sense?  Are they based on fact or the unknown?  Imagine living without them. Thinking about that feels good I bet.  Now realize that all the times you were processing fear as a negative emotion all you were really doing was paying attention.  Remember - fear is  a sign to ‘pay attention’ and paying attention is a good thing.

~ Kamjah

“there is nothing to fear but fear itself”