Kamjah .. The Chronicles

Last Sunday we held a Dating and Relationship workshop at Simply Yoga of Delray Beach - Florida.

Like the workshop we had the previous week, we had people travel from around the tri-country area to attend. 

This workshop is inspired from the research and findings revealed through: Evolutionary Psychology, Behavioral Genetics, NLP and Anthropology.

What makes this especially unique is that the material covered is based on fact and real scientific research and NOT on personal opinion or some self-proclaimed relationship expert / love guru’s opinion.

We covered topics like: attraction, how it isn’t choice but character is, to traits that men and women unconsciously look for in the opposite sex (somewhat counter intuitive stuff here) to even where the biological impulse comes from that make some people want to cheat. All that and more was covered on June 20th.

As no future workshops are scheduled at this present time please check this page often for updates: http://www.kamjah.com/events-and-workshops.php

Below see pictures from last Sunday (only a couple were taken)

Do you want to join us and be part of the group for a future workshop or get together? Then check back here often: http://www.kamjah.com/events-and-workshops.php

For more information about workshops, events and personal coaching call now: (305) 851-2459

See pictures now from the workshop held on June 13th, 2010 @ Simply Yoga in Delray Beach, Florida

This was a wonderful life coaching experience that attracted participants from: Miami, Boca Raton, Delray Beach, Boynton Beach and Ft. Lauderdale.

In 2 hours everyone got introduced to the blind spots in their life and equipped with real solutions and strategies that they can being applying immediately.   In addition there was an unadvertised bonus that participants got to experience at the end called “Creating Your Circle of Excellence.”   This a Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) technique that is used by many of today’s top athletic trainers to empower athletes to quickly be able access a states of resourcefulness and excellence on demand.  As you can imagine, this technique is not limited to just athletic enhancement.

The next workshop is scheduled for June 20th, 2010 at the same time and location above. This workshop will be focusing on Dating and Relationships. Sign up now here: click here

Do you want to join us and be part of the group? If so..

The next workshop is scheduled for June 20th, 2010 at the same time and location above. This workshop will be focusing on Dating and Relationships. Sign up now here: click here

For even more information call: (305) 851-2459

You have emotions, but your emotions are not you. You have a body but your body is not you. You have an emotional life but you are not your emotions or your feelings.

Emotions are very powerful things and like our outer form (body), they are nothing more then tools to help us navigate through the world. At best emotions are ‘present moment’ indicators and NOT to be confused with ‘intuition’.

All too often people find themselves over-identifying and making decisions based on their emotions instead of on who they really are inside. Over identifying with your emotions can lead you toward developing a self identity based on emotional responses which then becomes dependent upon external qualities (looks, physical, etc) and actions (validation, approval, etc..).

How do you know if you are making a decision based on  emotion as opposed to who you really are inside?

Let’s find out.

For starters before you make a ‘yes’ decision about something ask yourself first: “is this ‘yes’ answer is coming from  ME  based on who I  really am inside and what I stand for”?. If not and you answer that question with a no then chances are your decision is charged off an emotion instead of yourself (YOU).

Examples of EMOTIONALLY based decisions include:

1. Investing money that you can’t afford to lose by being seduced into the ‘big win.’
2. Sleeping with someone only to feel better about yourself then feeling bad about it the next day.
3. Receiving plastic surgery expecting it to solve your issues and still having the same issues that you had before the surgery.
4. Getting angry and then losing control like beating someone up or self abuse like drinking.

Examples of the above decisions reflecting the SELF instead and not being emotionally driven:

1. Investing & losing money… The flip here is that you can live with it. You first made sure you were clear with yourself on knowing the risks associated and the fact that it didn’t work out doesn’t make you feel bad. You move on.
2. Sleeping with someone… The flip here is doing so because you truly want too and not giving it a second thought.
3. Getting plastic surgery… The flip side is getting plastic surgery from a place of personal enhancement where you go into it already feeling great and then enjoying the enhancement after.
4. Getting angry and realizing your anger is only an emotion and taking time to cool off.

Next time you feel prone to making an impulse decision take a moment to notice where it is coming from and make note of the emotion you are feeling at the moment. Then cross reference that decision against who YOU are and what YOU are all about. Decisions that truly come from you are solid and there can be no such thing as regrets from them, and at worst only learning experiences.

When you learn how to recognize truly that YOU are not your emotions, and YOU are not your physical form then YOU become able to make better decisions that truly serve your identity instead one’s that gamble with it.

Geoffrey

(305) 851-2459

Geoffrey provides  Life Coaching,  and NLP services offered over the phone and in person here in South Florida  If you’re life sometimes feels like you’re trying to  juggle cotton balls in hurricane then maybe now is the right time to get started with coaching.

Part 2 in a 2 Part Series

Part 1 - “Learning a New Behavior - Forming a New Habit” - read it: click here

Part 2 - “Replacing an Old Habit with a New One”

In Part 1: “Learning a New Behavior – Forming a New Habit” you learned what to do in order to let go of old habits that are not serving you and the steps to take to install new ones’ that will.

Assuming you have read Part 1 ( click here to read ) and you are in the process of adding or changing up  habits  then here are some things to be aware of as well as some additional information you will find useful.

The Process of Habit Change:

Whenever we start the process of habit change there is a natural set of steps we go through. These steps include:

1. Pre-contemplation - This is where we think about changing a habit. We say to ourselves “I don’t think this habit is serving me any longer.”
2. Contemplation - This is when we consider what it will take to move forward and make the change.
3. Preparation – This is when we assemble the resources we are going to need (like an NLP life coach) to facilitate the process.
4. Action - At this stage we have put the wheels of action into motion. We are now actively pursuing to evict the old habit and working to replace it with the new and better serving one.
5. Maintenance – Maintenance is necessary because old habits die hard. This can come in the form of solid support structures in place like working with a coaching and daily reminders.
6. Termination - The time and place when the non-serving habit is completely gone and fully replaced with the one that serves you better. This is what we are aiming for!!

Stay alert and aware for Negative Responses to Habit Change!

As I’ve mentioned before old habits die hard so watch out for the following tricks that old habits will try to play on you:

1. Immobilization: Here you will feel confused and begin to question if getting rid of this old non-serving habit is truly possible and even worth it. These feelings are not good so move forward each day knowing that you are only being tested. Old habits don’t want to go so will try every trick in the book to stay. Remember to stay strong and stay focused and know that those feelings are only temporary and there is light at the end of the tunnel no matter how long that tunnel may seem.

2. Denial: This is a big one that creeps up so stay alert. This is when you start to convince yourself that the belief you want to change really does not need to be changed. Say for example you drink excessively; through denial you may convince yourself that you really don’t have a drinking problem even though all the while deep down you really know you do. Be on the lookout for denial.

3. Bargaining: This is where you try to tell yourself ‘ok I can follow the old habit a little’. No - shut your mind off to any and all mental negotiating. Bargaining is what slowly brings you back to where you started. Always remind yourself why it is you want to change that habit in the first place.

4. Depression: This one can hit hard especially when the habit you are working to change really affects a large part of your reality. Depending on the strength of the habit and its size it may go as far as impacting your whole identity. I remember talking to someone who said I quote: “for 15 years I was a drug addict, pills, heroin, you name it…and then after I beat the addiction and quit drugs (killed the drug habit) my whole life and reality changed. I got new friends, a new outlook, a new perspective, a NEW IDENTITY. Now maybe it isn’t a drug habit for you but you get the point. Change and evolution is a good thing and everyone’s journey is different so feel free to embrace yours and whatever come from with it.

To help minimize the negative responses you may experience there are some things you can do like focus on the positive reinforcing responses instead.

1. Informed Optimism: Take 15 minutes to write down all the benefits you will gain from adopting this new habit.

2. Informed Pessimism: Take 15 minutes to write all the negatives associated with keeping that old non-serving habit.

3. Realism: Take 15 minutes to write the hard core realities you can truly see yourself experiencing by fully adopting the new habit.

4. Completion: Take 15 minutes to write down how much you see your life being changed and improved and what you will be like after the new habit has become fully integrated and part of you.

Make sure to take 15 minutes each day to read over your positive reinforcing statements. Doing this will help make the process flow by quicker and smoother, not to mention feel more natural as well.

Changing habits is rarely easy and entirely possible. If you think you can benefit from adopting new habits that will serve you better and can see the value of being supported by a trained and experienced professional along the way, please feel free to contact me for a complementary consultation. I’ll review your issue and be able to make the determination if coaching and NLP is right for you.

If you haven’t done so already then I highly recommend that you read Part 1  as it was written to go hand in hand with this one. Go to Part 1 now: click here

~ Geoff

For more information on Geoffrey Schmidt’s coaching, NLP or speaking services please contact him directly at: www.kamjah.com/contact.php or call: (305) 851-2459

On September 17^th, 2009 Geoffrey Schmidt was the guest speaker for Professor Jose Fernandez’s Masters level class on leadership at Sacred Heart University in Puerto Rico.

Via teleconference for 1 ½ hours Mr. Schmidt spoke to the class and answered questions on the benefits of Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) based coaching. Students were made aware that many of today’s top leaders, business people and entrepreneurs hire coaches to help keep them on track and improve their performance.

Geoffrey was quoted saying: “It’s counter intuitive to think that today’s top business leaders and success stories are mostly the one’s hiring the coaches when on the surface most people wouldn’t think that they are the one’s who need it. Smart people recognize value, and understand how to leverage it - coaching is valuable. In many cases these top performers hire coaches not because they are struggling but because they want to do even better thus enhance their performance even more.  Coaching literally has become the new success secret of every savvy businessperson hungry for better performance and faster results”.

Geoffrey made sure to share some time with the students to explain how his coaching system works.  According to Geoffrey the system he developed was based on taking many things that were initially complex and then reducing them into their simple and easy to understand forms based on principles and techniques found in: Evolutionary Psychology, NLP, Nature, and Hypnosis.

He explained to students that his system has four main parts:

First - Diagnose the clients needs
Second - Have the client project their goals
Third -  Identify as many useful and destructive behaviors as possible
Fourth - Develop an action plan that unlocks their unlimited potential to succeed in any area of life or business

By the end of the class the students had been introduced to, and made aware of a field that many had not clearly understood before listening to Geoffrey speak. In closing Mr. Schmidt said, “Years ago many people wouldn’t have had access to, much less even known about coaching services existing. Today coaching is reaching more people then ever before and is no longer a highly guarded and coveted secret of the rich, famous and successful. It’s becoming more and more mainstream thus giving the people who want it  from all walks of life and backgrounds the real opportunity to experience the benefits “.

For more information on Geoffrey Schmidt’s coaching, NLP or speaking services please contact him directly at: www.kamjah.com/contact.php or call: (305) 851-2459

2 Part Series

Part 1 - “Learning a New Behavior - Forming a New Habit”

Part 2 - “Replacing and Old Habit With a New One”

Learning a New Behavior
Forming a New Habit

Can you imagine letting go of the habits that are not serving you and replacing them with ones that are. I bet you notice how good it feels to imagine that. You may even find that you like the idea so much that you keep reading to see what comes next!

Lets start with defining what a habit is..

A habit is an automatic response / reaction to a specific stimulus. Once you experience the stimulus you do the habit without thinking. We form habits for two primary reasons: 1. to bring us closer to what pleasures us and 2. to move us away from what we perceive as causing us pain. Another way to put is is that every habit has a positive intention, whether we are conscious of it or not.

First lets go over the stages in learning:

1. Unconscious Incompetence - This is where you are unaware that you don’t know

2. Conscious Incompetence - This is when you are aware that you don’t know

3. Conscious Competence - You know what you need to know but you still have to consciously think about it

4. Unconscious Competence - You know what you know so well that you don’t even have to think about it

Here are some examples of activities that many people in their life have achieved the level of unconscious competence in: driving a car, making toast, taking a shower, brushing their teeth, riding a bike, etc…

See if you can think of some things that you might benefit from having a level of “Unconscious Competence” in..

Say for example you want to become a more social person and perhaps you suffer from social anxiety. If you recognize that it will benefit you to become a more socially aware human then you are starting at the level of “Conscious Incompetence” and through practice and coaching you can rapidly reach the level of “Unconscious Competence”. That’s the level where you automatically know the right thing to say and do in almost all situations.. Kinda like you don’t even have to think about the right words instead they just come.

The steps involved in forming a new habit:

1. Map the Behavior - The first step for learning a new behavior is to have a mental map of it, to understand what you are learning and why. Take 20 minutes to imagine yourself stepping into the new behavior and living it. Notice all the details and how good it will feel and the benifit you reap because of it. It’s always good to be clear in the purpose and how it is going to serve you. Take 45 minutes to write this down in detail. If for nothing else, clarities sake.

2. Practice - Once you have a mental understanding of the behavior, you need to practice the action over and over again in order for it to become a habit.

3. Positive Feelings Catch Up - Initially, as you practice the new behavior you will probably feel uncomfortable, awkward, and worst of all…phony. As you continue to practice, you feel more and more comfortable. Feelings lag behind thinking. The you practice over and over again is so the you can become more and more comfortable during the behavior.

4. Behavior Becomes Automatic - With consistent practice, emotional comfort increases. Eventually the new action becomes automatic; thus it becomes habit.

What new habits do you want to acquire?

For many people it’s the habit of knowing what to say in social situations, for others it’s the habit of waking up early, and for some it’s gaining the habit of going to the gym daily. Right now, choose the new habit you want to create and get to work. Do you want to reach your habit goal faster? If so then sooner or later you may want to contact a life coach like me. I wrote this article so naturally as you can imagine and see I know a thing or two about this subject. Either way good luck and stay tuned for Part 2: Replacing an Old Habit With a New One.

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~ Geoff

(305) 851-2459
www.kamjah.com

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John Grinder and Richard Bandler are the founders of Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP).   As they founded this field together, it’s my understanding they went their separate way after years of working together.

If you haven’t heard them speak before, then give yourself the opportunity and take a few minutes to open yourself up to what they have to say.

You never know, you may like what you see so much that you recommend NLP to all your friends and family. It’s easy to get intrigued because the more you watch this stuff the more intrigued you may feel yourself become.

As you may or may not know I’m a certified NLP Practitioner (Master status pending approval).. If you think I can help then contact me.

Now relax in your seat and enjoy the videos!

If you are curious and ready to experience NLP for yourself then: click here for more info

Have you ever had one of those days where you woke up in the morning and no matter what you did you just couldn’t ’snap’ out of it? It’s like you had a bad dream and it left you with a salty attitude to carry throughout the day. Sure you have, because we have all experienced at least one of those days. Today I am going to introduce you to something a little different. Instead of my typical blog post where I write and publish an article, this time I’m going to show you how to physically do something that when done right can adjust your attitude on command.

If you are in: sales, a business owner, entrepreneur, or work in any position where a positive outlook and attitude supports your job description and impacts your performance then you’ll find this technique extremely helpful.

When you are ready to experience the magic for yourself then follow the directions below. I’ve outlined them step by step. If you have any questions then contact me. Now here we go..

1. Find a comfortable place to sit, perhaps in a chair you like
2. Close your eyes
3. Take 5 deep breaths by inhaling slowly for 5 seconds and then holding for 3 seconds and exhaling for 5 seconds.
4. Now that you are relaxed, remember a specific time when you felt really happy. Now through your minds eye bring yourself back to that time, putting yourself in your own body, looking through your own eyes, seeing what you saw and hearing what you heard. Allow yourself to experience feelings of happiness. At this point you should at the very least be smirking since you are experiencing that positive experience again soyou can’t help but to smile.
5. As you feel these feelings mentally double them. As you are deeply reliving that experience in your mind go ahead and …
6. Take your left index finger and firmly press on your right index finger knuckle and hold it for 10 seconds while you are feeling those happy feelings.

That’s it! Now you’re done. Next time you are feeling upset, or need an attitude adjustment all you have to do is take you left index finger and press it against your left index finer knuckle and those feelings will come flushing back.

Something worth mentioning is that if you can’t remember the directions I provided on your own then it is perfectly fine to print out this page and have a friend or family member read the directions to you.

Congratulations! Because unless you have worked with me personally, you have just been introduced to a very basic NLP technique.

~ Geoff

Kamjah is a former CEO who sold his last company and now provides holistic Life Coaching, Business Coaching and NLP services.  Kamjah calls home: Miami - Palm Beach - Los Angeles - Boston

Do you know what your primary input channel is? You may think you do but you may also be surprised by the real answer.

Some people can experience an immediate shift in life with the dawning of a new perspective on things simply by becoming aware of their type of input channel.

Are you brave enough to find out yours? I’m going to warn you that you may not look at things the same way after you are made aware of this information. This is not a game, a magic trick, or something with a string attached. What it is, is a painless and fun exercise that will send you deeper into self-awareness.

The crazy part is that this exercise is so simple and very counter intuitive! I understand that in a lot of societies and cultures people are taught that dramatic results happen over a long period of time. I’m here to prove that in what I do, this is not the case. Thanks to NLP and my coach training I provoke the same change in a matter of hours that can take other professionals weeks, months to and sometimes even years to induce. Once you are made aware of how you are programmed to perceive your world, your perspective will change, and your behavior will naturally follow to some degree.

Once you have completed this exercise and received your answers I want you to think about how long it took you to change your perspective and view of the world. After this exercise it will become impossible for you to look at the world in the exact same way. Are you sure you are ready? Perhaps you are comfortable in your little bubble? If you are happy living in that bubble then I suggest you don’t rock the boat and stop reading now. However if you are interested in experiencing this, then I invite you to continue.

Everyone has a dominant input channel: Audio (hearing), Visual (seeing) or Kinesthetic (touch).

What we are going to do is discover yours.

Ready to get started? Ok this is how it works….

This is an interactive exercise, which means: you answer then I answer back. There is not way to cheat, and there is no right or wrong answer as this is a self discovery based exercise and not a test or a quiz.

Now, lets begin.

As you sit there staring at your computer screen, think about these three sentences:

1. Describe more of your present experience to me.
2. Do you understand what I am saying?
3. I want to communicate something to you.

Now that I know you have thought about those three sentences, go ahead and rephrase each one using your own words.

Do you get it? Good.

The last step is to post your rephrased 3 sentences as a comment to this blog. I will see your comment and then let you know what your primary input channel is and how you can experience the full benefit of your results.

There is great value in knowing this. Many psychologists and professionals charge big $$$ to do this exercise on clients - I’m offering it for FREE and for fun.

So lets enjoy it and celebrate having a new perspective on the world.

~ Geoff

This exercise is one of MANY life-changing and perspective-shifting exercises that I do with clients. If you are ready to experience more so that you can start to live a better life, which to some of you may mean: getting certain areas of life handled (more free time, social skills, etc..), ridding yourself of self limiting beliefs, and / or achieving more balance then contact me today. I am a Life Coach, Business Coach, Dating Coach and certified NLP practitioner.

* I will do my very best to answer everyone as fast as possible.

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Kamjah - The Holistic Approach To Life Coaching

MIAMI, FL. – It’s never too late to change your life says Life Coach, Kamjah who has done just that by launching his own life coaching business.

Based in South Florida, Kamjah who’s given name is Geoffrey Schmidt, believes that we live in a world of information overload and people are finding it more difficult to make the right choices that lead toward living a balanced life.

Now more than ever, too many people are at a crossroad in their life whether they are conscious of it or not. Kamjah’s aim is to guide them through that crossroad and toward better decision making thus leading to a more balanced and fulfilling life.

Kamjah’s approach to Life Coaching is Holistic. Inspired by teachings from not only modern psychologists such as Carl Jung, and Milton Erickson; but also Eastern wisdom such as Buddhism and Hinduism, he is able to pull from these vast worlds to create an individualized unique Life Coaching experience. Kamjah remembers that it was when he spent his first time in Singapore visiting a Buddhist temple and later more time in Bali, Indonesia learning about Hinduism where he experienced his first ‘ah-ha’ moment, where he truly understood how everything is connected and works. That is where he got the name Kamjah too. It was inspired from a story he listened to about a Buddhist wise man being named Kamjah; the literal translation of his name meaning “guide to clarity”.

Before becoming a Life Coach, Kamjah experienced the life of a successful CEO who started, built, grew and then eventually sold a company that provided services in the travel and tourism industry. As he wears his primary hat as a Life Coach; successful business professionals have hired him for his guidance and exceptional business and marketing  savvy. He is also certified in Neurolinguistic Programming by the National Federation of Neurolinguistic Programming, and as an Healthcare Provider by the American Heart Association.

“I love working with people and bringing out their best. I believe everyone feels deep down that they have a meaning and purpose to life, and through my system which creates balance, I see that purpose coming out.” says Kamjah. He also adds, “We take things one step at a time. We start at the beginning by figuring out what you are missing in life or can use more of, and from there we create a plan that you can not only see, but feel - and if the plan is right then the feeling is always good”. 

Kamjah delivers Life Coaching, Business Coaching and his other coaching services over the phone and in person. To find out more about this remarkable person and how to get in touch with him please visit his website here: www.Kamjah.com.

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