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 What if I was to say that you have the opportunity to make 2009 the best year of your life? With a global economic crisis on our hands, combined with a multitude of other disruptive events you may think twice before agreeing with that statement. Nevertheless I’m telling you that it’s possible, and it can be done. If you allow it, 2009 can truly be your best year! It all starts with you and how much you’re willing to commit toward personal growth and evolution.

Here are 10 tips to get started:

1. Get over the past:

The past is the past so let it stay there. Personal regret, should have done, would have done, didn’t do, wanted to do…none of that is serving you so let it all go. Living in the past only sabotages the present. Now, if you have amends to make or debts to pay, then of course take care of those; but remember they are in the past and will be accepted and added to your future. The important thing is that you let go of any negative attachments and make peace. Remember what’s done is done and the only direction you can go is forward.

2. Tell the truth:

Part of being real is being honest. When you commit to a life of honesty, notice how your whole padagrim in life will shift for the better. Be you because it’s the person you were meant to be.

3. Identify your emotional and physical needs:

Do you know what your needs are? Most people don’t and that is part of the reason why so many people are suffering and living in an unnatural existence. When one’s personal and emotional needs are not met, then that person may tend to act more impulsive and do things like: overspend, overeat, oversleep, etc.. The rule here is identify your needs and get them taken care of.

4. Take responsibility:

Accept the fact that the sum total of your life and quality is the sum total of all your decisions. As everyone has different circumstances in life, everyone has the ability to take responsibility for themself. To truly be in control of your life is to accept the responsibilities that go with it.

5. Know your gifts:

Do you know what your special talents are? If not, then at some level you are not being completely true with yourself. What can you do well that many other people can’t do? Everyone has a special something, so it’s worthwhile to figure out what your natural gifts are. When you discover them, then you can orient your life around them. For example, Tiger Woods has a natural ability for golf which he continually refines with coaching and practice. What are you naturally good at that you could become masterful with additional training?

6. Exercise random acts of kindness:

The universe works on many levels with kindness in the top tier. You don’t have to take my word for it, but notice what it’s like to randomly offer help. Try it, it feels good. It can be something as little as holding the door open for someone, to offering to help a fellow passenger on a plane stow their overhead baggage, or even paying the toll for the car behind you. There are many different things you can do. Get in the habit of performing random acts of kindness and notice the difference it makes.

7. Create boundaries:

Personal boundaries mark your limits of what you do and do not control in your psychological territory. Another way of looking at this is the conduct in which we hold others too, so we can be our best. Do yourself justice and set strong boundaries and stand by them consistently, otherwise people may constantly test you. Not to mention that when your boundaries are vague then your identity comes into question.

8. Get healthy:

You owe it to your body to keep it in shape. Whether you walk one mile, surf for one hour or even hit the gym, make sure to do some sort of physical exercise / activity at least 3 days a week. Your mind will rejuvenate faster and you will feel better about yourself. Have you ever heard anyone say that they regretted exercising?

9. Create financial integrity

This means being in touch with your financial situation and living within your means. Do you have a reserve? Do you save at least 10% of your income? If you are experiencing fear, dread, or anxiety in the area of your finances, then you are experiencing a lack of balance financially; which is often tied to other areas of your life. Once you become in touch with your real needs, then this matter often sorts itself out. It’s always important to be true to your financial well being.

10. Start living life for YOU

Forget what you think you should or ought to do. Instead, ask yourself what do you really want to do with your life? If you aren’t fully living your life, then part of you is missing or incomplete. Once I had a client who was a lawyer and hated it; however he did nothing to change his profession due to the pressure of following in his father and grandfather’s footsteps who were both lawyers. When he starting being honest with himself, and willing to confront his fears with displeasing his father and grandfather he then started living his life based on his terms. A life based entirely on his own desires and natural gifts. If you are wondering what he is doing now,  he’s a chef and extremely happy. Imagine that and good for him! If you aren’t living your own life, then who’s life are you living? 

Happy new year and wishing you a prosperous 2009!

~ Kamjah

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Fear is an incredibly powerful emotion.  It’s part of our emotional range as an indicator to ‘pay attention’.   For many though, fear is interpreted as a feeling of extreme discomfort and in some cases physical and mental paralysis. 

How could such a useful emotion go so wrong in so many people?  The not so surprising truth is that most people  associate toward the negative side of fear rather then the positive.  Fear was intended as a positive emotion, not one that is meant to limit our range for emotional and physical experience.

How to deal with fear:

When I’m working with clients on this specific emotion we go one of two ways and on special occasion sometimes both ways.  Those ways are: physical experience (face the fear) and NLP.

I suggest changing the way you look at fear all together.  Remind yourself that fear is nothing but a sign to pay attention as there is no need to associate any negative feelings.

Ever hear the saying “fear of the unknown”?   When we know something and understand it then we no longer fear it, but to understand something we must first be willing to explore it.  For example remember the first time you drove a car?  For many the first time was scary, but the more times you summoned up the courage to get behind the wheel and practice the more experience you gained and the less scary it became to the point where it may have become second nature.  One real way to get over your fears is to use courage and go out and do things that frighten you.   Through using courage you’ll get experience and then be left with wisdom where at that point you will no longer have the fear you set out to remove but merely an action followed up by a consequence.  On a basic level that breaks down to:  courage leads to exploration which leads to experience which leads to wisdom.  Wouldn’t you agree that having wisdom is better then the alternative?  

The other way to deal with handling specific fears is through Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP).  Using NLP we able to isolate the specific fears and eliminate them one by one, and in some cases groups at a time.  For most people one or two NLP sessions are all that are needed.  Imagine in a matter of minutes being completely rid of your fear of spiders, fear of the ocean, or some other fear you have?  NLP can do that. 

A few examples of common fears:

Fear of the ocean
Fear of spiders
Many men fear approaching women
Fear of the dark
Fear of death (this is a fear to understand and become at peace with..not go our and experience )

Now take a moment to think about the fears holding you back in your life. Do they make logical sense?  Are they based on fact or the unknown?  Imagine living without them. Thinking about that feels good I bet.  Now realize that all the times you were processing fear as a negative emotion all you were really doing was paying attention.  Remember - fear is  a sign to ‘pay attention’ and paying attention is a good thing.

~ Kamjah

“there is nothing to fear but fear itself”