Kamjah .. The Chronicles

A good friend of mine with a very big heart has started a website called MyThreeThings.org.  Below she has provided me with a write up describing the site and what it’s all about.  Read below then check it out to see for yourself.

Shame and guilt have a profound effect on all of our lives. These painful and destructive emotions  thrive in the endless stream of things we hold against ourselves. They show up in our memories, thoughts, behaviors, opinions, beliefs, values, relationships…the list goes on and on.  Communication alone has the power to bring awareness, understanding and healing into our lives.  Why, then, do we choose to suffer in silence? We worry we will be abandoned or unloved if people found  out who we “really” are. We worry about possible social consequences if we admit the things we have done.  We worry what our parents, friends, children, siblings, lovers and bosses will think of us. So we only reveal what we like about ourselves; what we believe others will approve of. We adorn social masks to disguise ourselves,  harboring a sad, thin hope that we might please others enough to win their love and respect. All at the expense of living an authentic life.

Are you ready to make a shift? My Three Things is offering an opportunity to release, heal and share your story.
Visit http://MyThreeThings.org to participate! Here’s how it’s done: Think of three specific things you’re willing to forgive yourself for.  Once you have three things in mind, simply fill out a release form on their website and submit.
Submissions are being collected for a book and a documentary.  And yes, you have the option to remain anonymous.

If you find it difficult to forgive others, then consider this: People often get caught up in a “self-righteous victim” mentality. “If this person treated me more lovingly or had never done this or that, then I would be alright”. It’s never completely true, is it?  No one has that much power over you. Blaming others allows you to pretend that they do, but it simply isn’t so. The only behavior we are responsible for or have the ability to transform is our own. If you focus on your own flaws, bring them to light and accept them without judgment, you will begin to feel compassion for both yourself and others.

My Three Things is a healing process. First, acknowledge your “things” by releasing them. This allows you to step onto a path that leads to loving and accepting yourself unconditionally.  Then, heal them. Releasing judgment and feeling compassion is what allows you to truly forgive others as well as yourself. Now, share them. Sharing your “three things” will do more than just benefit you. Your willingness to share a true and hidden part of yourself will inspire others to do the same!

This project was created to facilitate a unique and healing connection among people around the world. You have the opportunity to participate, so go for it!

If you’d like to read some of the submissions we have received so far, click here http://MyThreeThings.org/heal.htm

Forgive yourself. Share it with the world!

When I started my coaching practice one of the first things I wrote down as part of my coaching practice vision was: “Within one year - have a thriving socially responsible and socially conscious coaching practice”. This means actively helping out the organizations I support.

In the past I have volunteered with Habitat for Humanity and have always found their cause to be a noble one. When I found out that they had a project taking place only 10 minutes away from where I live I couldn’t resist showing up and offering to lend a hand.

Here are some pictures from the job site:

I’m extending a special thank you to all of my clients who continue to trust my expertise to help guide them toward living a richer life filled with more clarity, focus and direction. Without YOU, this would not be able to happen at the level it is. This means that by working together with you choosing me as your coach, YOU are helping out too. Imagine that.  Now, as you might have already imagined, as I’m working to help make a difference in your life, TOGETHER we are helping to make a difference in lives of many others.

The project is open to everyone. If you are reading this blog and you want to lend a hand by physically helping out the Habitat for Humanity cause in Boynton Beach, then come on down as they can always use more volunteers.

The job site is located at: 507 NW 13^th Ave. in Boynton Beach, Florida. The recipients of the house: Levi and Cynthia Gregg, not to mention Habitat for Humanity will be most appreciative.

~ Coach Geoff

For more information on Geoffrey Schmidt’s coaching, NLP or speaking services please contact him directly at: www.kamjah.com/contact.php or call: (305) 851-2459

Do you subscribe to the fact that we are in a recession? According to most economic indicators we are in pretty bad shape and things don’t look like they are going to be turning around anytime soon.  So what does that mean for you..

I look at things a certain way and maybe after reading this article you will too.  I see the recession as being a wake up call.  For too many years it was too easy to make a living in the United States.  For example,  not to long ago anyone who carried a real estate license could buy and sell  houses fairly easily and make money.  Where I’m located in South Florida this place was no exception. I know of a 24 year old Miami based Realtor who made close to half of a million dollars in 2006 doing just that.  The requirement to fill certain voids were far and few.  In those days anyone who had a basic understanding of HTML could call themselves a web designer and get a decent paying job.  Demand for goods and services were at such an all time high that made the supply of truly experienced, and professional providers at an all time low. These easy times seduced many people into  taking jobs and moving in directions that may not have really been for them. Now, as times have changed we are experiencing an unveiling and weighing in to see who really belongs where they say they are.  Take a look around and you will notice that the strong elite of any industry and profession always seem to survive both bad and good times.  This happens because they come from a place of LIFE PURPOSE and deep rooted CONNECTION to what they do.  These kinds of people are so passionate about what they do and their clients / jobs / customers that they conserve during the ups so they can still serve their life purpose during the downs.   Why would someone with a deeply rooted strong purpose live and govern them self any other way?  As you can probably imagine, many in this elite club do pretty well even in times like these.

If you haven’t though about it by now then take a second to ask yourself why many professionals are struggling today.  It’s easy to blame the economy, but the real answer lays within the individual.  The actual truth is that everyday of every week there ARE, for example, real estate professionals out there selling houses and doing profitable business.  Get this, there are actually some Realtors who are going to make 2009 their best year ever! Why do you think that is?  Is it because they are lucky?  That is a convenient thought, but it isn’t the truth. The answer is because these exceptional elite few found their TRUE calling instead of being swayed into following the heard during ‘good times.’  This mind set resulted in  these individuals making themselves into essentially recession proof individuals.   The recession is a state of mind more then a state of being.

These kinds of people I’ve been talking about do what they have to do based on purpose and following a personal path  rather then a sense of obligation. Sure, obligation somewhat goes hand in hand but to be elite and essentially recession proof then you need to be coming from a rooted place of purpose.  By now you may get it, then again there are always some people who don’t.  It’s kind of like how you can’t have: rich without poor, good without bad, and strong without weak.  Its the way nature designed things.

As you are reading this you may be finding yourself curious to know if you are truly on your path. A quick and easy way to get some insight into this answer is to figure out if  you are worth enough to invest in, and if you have the courage to take the first step.  Some of the most successful, happy, and purposeful people in the world invest in themselves through materials, consultants, coaches and courses that make them more rooted and connected to what they do.   When I had my last company I spent as much as I could afford on training, coaching, consulting, and self improvement. It was all for one reason: I loved what I did and because of that I naturally wanted to deliver the best services to my clients and customers that I was humanly capable of.   Understand that  people in this elite club see, feel and understand the cause and affect relationship with investing in yourself leading toward the bigger picture.

Everyday you have a choice to be either: rich or poor, average or great, happy or sad, a sheep or the herder. Where you are right now is a reflection of the choices you have made and the meanings you have placed on those choices.  It’s never too late to figure things out and begin the journey to where you want to be.  First, you need to know how to take the first step and where to start.  Figure that out and then you will be on your personal path toward success and happiness.

Good luck and Namaste.

~ Kamjah

Thought to ponder #1: Demonstrate that you are strong in a down economy, and experience your success exploding in an up economy.  That how’s the elite work.

Thought to ponder #2: Take the down economy as  an opportunity to discover your true calling and then move forward to demonstrate to the world exactly what that is.   Because when you tap in and do this, no matter what the economy is doing, people will find you for what it is you provide.  There are a few billion people in this world, so the keep in mind that the best providers of anything always have business.  To be the best you need to be on your path, and coming from a place of purpose.

Geoff Schmidt (aka Kamjah) is a Life Coach,  and certified NLP practitioner.
CONTACT me today: (305) 851-2459

What are two things that highly successful people like actors, politicians, and corporate executives have in common? The answer: solid communication skills and coaches.

Part of being successful in any area of your life rests in your ability to communicate and connect with that area; whether it’s people, a task, or even an abstract idea. Direct communication comes in many forms, so for this article we will focus on the ‘in person’ or as you might say ‘face to face’ form.

Face to face communication is perhaps one of the most complex forms. When two people are communicating in person there is much more going on outside of the spoken word. In face to face communication, some researchers believe that only 7% of the communication process is contained within the context of the spoken word and the remaining 93% is made up of body language, vocal tone, eye contact, energy, and facial gestures.

Many successful people know the importance of clear communication. Why do you think many persuasive politicians and successful business executives work with personal coaches? One reason is to make sure they are communicating clearly and being received in the way intended. In the world of linguistics and kinesthetics we call someone ‘congruent’ when their words match their vocal tone and body language. Congruency is what many successful people seek in their interpersonal communication and is why many hire NLP coaches. Deep down we all instinctively know that truly congruent people are far and few, and that is why we have a natural tendency to gravitate toward the congruent elite. It makes sense that congruent business people often rise to executive leadership positions and congruent politicians get elected.

Here is a simple way test yourself for personal congruency.   Ask yourself:  “When I communicate are my messages always received the way I intend them”? If you answered yes to that question, then congratulations because it seems  you are congruent, and if you answered no, then it seems that you should allow yourself to benefit from training to become more congruent.

Becoming congruent can be learned with a few simple steps. When you learn how to control the different parts that make up your communication experience as a whole,  then you can be sure that your messages will come across the way you want them to be received. If you are ready to take control of that area of your life and start communicating with purpose and clear intent, then contact Kamjah now.

~ Kamjah

FYI: I may write another piece on this topic in the near future. I’m thinking my next one will cover congruency in dating. Ladies, ever had a guy creep you out? Guys, ever creep a lady out? LOL That is almost always due to a lack of congruency. Anyways, more on that later.

 What if I was to say that you have the opportunity to make 2009 the best year of your life? With a global economic crisis on our hands, combined with a multitude of other disruptive events you may think twice before agreeing with that statement. Nevertheless I’m telling you that it’s possible, and it can be done. If you allow it, 2009 can truly be your best year! It all starts with you and how much you’re willing to commit toward personal growth and evolution.

Here are 10 tips to get started:

1. Get over the past:

The past is the past so let it stay there. Personal regret, should have done, would have done, didn’t do, wanted to do…none of that is serving you so let it all go. Living in the past only sabotages the present. Now, if you have amends to make or debts to pay, then of course take care of those; but remember they are in the past and will be accepted and added to your future. The important thing is that you let go of any negative attachments and make peace. Remember what’s done is done and the only direction you can go is forward.

2. Tell the truth:

Part of being real is being honest. When you commit to a life of honesty, notice how your whole padagrim in life will shift for the better. Be you because it’s the person you were meant to be.

3. Identify your emotional and physical needs:

Do you know what your needs are? Most people don’t and that is part of the reason why so many people are suffering and living in an unnatural existence. When one’s personal and emotional needs are not met, then that person may tend to act more impulsive and do things like: overspend, overeat, oversleep, etc.. The rule here is identify your needs and get them taken care of.

4. Take responsibility:

Accept the fact that the sum total of your life and quality is the sum total of all your decisions. As everyone has different circumstances in life, everyone has the ability to take responsibility for themself. To truly be in control of your life is to accept the responsibilities that go with it.

5. Know your gifts:

Do you know what your special talents are? If not, then at some level you are not being completely true with yourself. What can you do well that many other people can’t do? Everyone has a special something, so it’s worthwhile to figure out what your natural gifts are. When you discover them, then you can orient your life around them. For example, Tiger Woods has a natural ability for golf which he continually refines with coaching and practice. What are you naturally good at that you could become masterful with additional training?

6. Exercise random acts of kindness:

The universe works on many levels with kindness in the top tier. You don’t have to take my word for it, but notice what it’s like to randomly offer help. Try it, it feels good. It can be something as little as holding the door open for someone, to offering to help a fellow passenger on a plane stow their overhead baggage, or even paying the toll for the car behind you. There are many different things you can do. Get in the habit of performing random acts of kindness and notice the difference it makes.

7. Create boundaries:

Personal boundaries mark your limits of what you do and do not control in your psychological territory. Another way of looking at this is the conduct in which we hold others too, so we can be our best. Do yourself justice and set strong boundaries and stand by them consistently, otherwise people may constantly test you. Not to mention that when your boundaries are vague then your identity comes into question.

8. Get healthy:

You owe it to your body to keep it in shape. Whether you walk one mile, surf for one hour or even hit the gym, make sure to do some sort of physical exercise / activity at least 3 days a week. Your mind will rejuvenate faster and you will feel better about yourself. Have you ever heard anyone say that they regretted exercising?

9. Create financial integrity

This means being in touch with your financial situation and living within your means. Do you have a reserve? Do you save at least 10% of your income? If you are experiencing fear, dread, or anxiety in the area of your finances, then you are experiencing a lack of balance financially; which is often tied to other areas of your life. Once you become in touch with your real needs, then this matter often sorts itself out. It’s always important to be true to your financial well being.

10. Start living life for YOU

Forget what you think you should or ought to do. Instead, ask yourself what do you really want to do with your life? If you aren’t fully living your life, then part of you is missing or incomplete. Once I had a client who was a lawyer and hated it; however he did nothing to change his profession due to the pressure of following in his father and grandfather’s footsteps who were both lawyers. When he starting being honest with himself, and willing to confront his fears with displeasing his father and grandfather he then started living his life based on his terms. A life based entirely on his own desires and natural gifts. If you are wondering what he is doing now,  he’s a chef and extremely happy. Imagine that and good for him! If you aren’t living your own life, then who’s life are you living? 

Happy new year and wishing you a prosperous 2009!

~ Kamjah

Contact Kamjah now to get on track and start experiencing the life meant for you. Your solution awaits.