Kamjah .. The Chronicles

What are two things that highly successful people like actors, politicians, and corporate executives have in common? The answer: solid communication skills and coaches.

Part of being successful in any area of your life rests in your ability to communicate and connect with that area; whether it’s people, a task, or even an abstract idea. Direct communication comes in many forms, so for this article we will focus on the ‘in person’ or as you might say ‘face to face’ form.

Face to face communication is perhaps one of the most complex forms. When two people are communicating in person there is much more going on outside of the spoken word. In face to face communication, some researchers believe that only 7% of the communication process is contained within the context of the spoken word and the remaining 93% is made up of body language, vocal tone, eye contact, energy, and facial gestures.

Many successful people know the importance of clear communication. Why do you think many persuasive politicians and successful business executives work with personal coaches? One reason is to make sure they are communicating clearly and being received in the way intended. In the world of linguistics and kinesthetics we call someone ‘congruent’ when their words match their vocal tone and body language. Congruency is what many successful people seek in their interpersonal communication and is why many hire NLP coaches. Deep down we all instinctively know that truly congruent people are far and few, and that is why we have a natural tendency to gravitate toward the congruent elite. It makes sense that congruent business people often rise to executive leadership positions and congruent politicians get elected.

Here is a simple way test yourself for personal congruency.   Ask yourself:  “When I communicate are my messages always received the way I intend them”? If you answered yes to that question, then congratulations because it seems  you are congruent, and if you answered no, then it seems that you should allow yourself to benefit from training to become more congruent.

Becoming congruent can be learned with a few simple steps. When you learn how to control the different parts that make up your communication experience as a whole,  then you can be sure that your messages will come across the way you want them to be received. If you are ready to take control of that area of your life and start communicating with purpose and clear intent, then contact Kamjah now.

~ Kamjah

FYI: I may write another piece on this topic in the near future. I’m thinking my next one will cover congruency in dating. Ladies, ever had a guy creep you out? Guys, ever creep a lady out? LOL That is almost always due to a lack of congruency. Anyways, more on that later.

Tags: body language, coaching, congruency, Dating, NLP coaching, successful people, vocal tone

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