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 What if I was to say that you have the opportunity to make 2009 the best year of your life? With a global economic crisis on our hands, combined with a multitude of other disruptive events you may think twice before agreeing with that statement. Nevertheless I’m telling you that it’s possible, and it can be done. If you allow it, 2009 can truly be your best year! It all starts with you and how much you’re willing to commit toward personal growth and evolution.

Here are 10 tips to get started:

1. Get over the past:

The past is the past so let it stay there. Personal regret, should have done, would have done, didn’t do, wanted to do…none of that is serving you so let it all go. Living in the past only sabotages the present. Now, if you have amends to make or debts to pay, then of course take care of those; but remember they are in the past and will be accepted and added to your future. The important thing is that you let go of any negative attachments and make peace. Remember what’s done is done and the only direction you can go is forward.

2. Tell the truth:

Part of being real is being honest. When you commit to a life of honesty, notice how your whole padagrim in life will shift for the better. Be you because it’s the person you were meant to be.

3. Identify your emotional and physical needs:

Do you know what your needs are? Most people don’t and that is part of the reason why so many people are suffering and living in an unnatural existence. When one’s personal and emotional needs are not met, then that person may tend to act more impulsive and do things like: overspend, overeat, oversleep, etc.. The rule here is identify your needs and get them taken care of.

4. Take responsibility:

Accept the fact that the sum total of your life and quality is the sum total of all your decisions. As everyone has different circumstances in life, everyone has the ability to take responsibility for themself. To truly be in control of your life is to accept the responsibilities that go with it.

5. Know your gifts:

Do you know what your special talents are? If not, then at some level you are not being completely true with yourself. What can you do well that many other people can’t do? Everyone has a special something, so it’s worthwhile to figure out what your natural gifts are. When you discover them, then you can orient your life around them. For example, Tiger Woods has a natural ability for golf which he continually refines with coaching and practice. What are you naturally good at that you could become masterful with additional training?

6. Exercise random acts of kindness:

The universe works on many levels with kindness in the top tier. You don’t have to take my word for it, but notice what it’s like to randomly offer help. Try it, it feels good. It can be something as little as holding the door open for someone, to offering to help a fellow passenger on a plane stow their overhead baggage, or even paying the toll for the car behind you. There are many different things you can do. Get in the habit of performing random acts of kindness and notice the difference it makes.

7. Create boundaries:

Personal boundaries mark your limits of what you do and do not control in your psychological territory. Another way of looking at this is the conduct in which we hold others too, so we can be our best. Do yourself justice and set strong boundaries and stand by them consistently, otherwise people may constantly test you. Not to mention that when your boundaries are vague then your identity comes into question.

8. Get healthy:

You owe it to your body to keep it in shape. Whether you walk one mile, surf for one hour or even hit the gym, make sure to do some sort of physical exercise / activity at least 3 days a week. Your mind will rejuvenate faster and you will feel better about yourself. Have you ever heard anyone say that they regretted exercising?

9. Create financial integrity

This means being in touch with your financial situation and living within your means. Do you have a reserve? Do you save at least 10% of your income? If you are experiencing fear, dread, or anxiety in the area of your finances, then you are experiencing a lack of balance financially; which is often tied to other areas of your life. Once you become in touch with your real needs, then this matter often sorts itself out. It’s always important to be true to your financial well being.

10. Start living life for YOU

Forget what you think you should or ought to do. Instead, ask yourself what do you really want to do with your life? If you aren’t fully living your life, then part of you is missing or incomplete. Once I had a client who was a lawyer and hated it; however he did nothing to change his profession due to the pressure of following in his father and grandfather’s footsteps who were both lawyers. When he starting being honest with himself, and willing to confront his fears with displeasing his father and grandfather he then started living his life based on his terms. A life based entirely on his own desires and natural gifts. If you are wondering what he is doing now,  he’s a chef and extremely happy. Imagine that and good for him! If you aren’t living your own life, then who’s life are you living? 

Happy new year and wishing you a prosperous 2009!

~ Kamjah

Contact Kamjah now to get on track and start experiencing the life meant for you. Your solution awaits.

Mindfulness is being present and aware that you are in control of all the outcomes in your life.  How do you find mindfulness? There are many ways: meditation, NLP techniques, breathing techniques..essentially any technique or action that forces you to stop that chatter box in your mind. Imagine always being present and aware of your own thoughts, and fully understanding that your thoughts are just thoughts and allowing yourself to just let them go and clear your mind. It feels pretty good I bet. When you clear your mind of all thoughts, then you are truly experiencing the present moment.

Being mindful is realizing that your happiness and fate does not come from an outside force.

Pay attention to this simple formula:

EVENT + PERCEPTION = OUTCOME

Event: you may or may not have control over.
Perception: you have 100% control over.
Outcome: you have control over depending how YOU choose to perceive the event.

By reviewing the above formula it becomes obvious that if you are living a happy life, that is because on some level you made a decision to do so; just as if you are living a life that does not bring you much happiness then that is by choice too. It all comes down to how we choose to perceive the events that make up our life. The issue for many is that they do not realize there is a choice. Instead they allow themselves to to be guided by external energies rather then harnessing and controlling the ones from within - the one’s that truly matter.

To be mindful, you need to be in the present moment. It seems we spend most of our time thinking about the past and worrying or planning the future. We don’t spend enough time experiencing the here and now. Through working with Kamjah and practice, you can train yourself to stop the internal chatter box and begin to focus on what you are currently doing. When you take the time to enjoy and relax, you may come to realize what you are missing when you are not in the present moment. When you are mindful, fresh baked bread smells better, time with family and friends may seem longer and more relaxing. Everything seems to be more enjoyable when your mind is full of the present.

Interesting Side Note: This concept of mindfulness was actually first visited many years ago. It’s clearly outlined in the ancient Buddhist teaching of the four noble truths:

Dukkha: The nature of suffering
Sanudaya:  Sufferings’ origin
Nirodha:  Sufferings’ cessation
Marga:  The way leading to cessation of suffering

~ Kamjah

If you want to learn to become more mindful and enjoy a life filled with fulfillment then contact Kamjah now to find out how. His coaching and wisdom will help you find your personal path toward where you want to be.

“Nothing can bring you peace but yourself. ”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

How do you get what you truly want and change for the better? The first step is to identify which areas of your life you need to work on in order to move closer toward your idea of perfection. Second is to figure out which habits are blocking you from taking that next step (i.e., you say that you want to physically exercise first thing in the morning but you have a habit for waking up at 11:00 AM). Once those habits have been identified, then you take a moment to honestly evaluate those habits and weigh them in with your idea of perfection. If they don’t fit then you decide to break those habits and together we use advanced NLP (Neurolinguistic Programing) strategies to to rid you once and for all of the habits that are holding you back. From there we create an action plan and continue to move forward. As perfection may always remain an ideal, the closer to you get to your ideal, the better your life will exponentially become.

On a side note: These days with so much information out there and so many distractions few of us can truly afford the steep learning curve of life.

It’s possible that you are now asking: how do I get started? If you truly want to identify those areas of your life that can be improved then it all starts with a complimentary 1/2 hour phone consultation (this offer expires Jan 15th, 2009). I don’t offer e-mail consultation (I will answer brief questions though), because I only work with individuals who are committed to change and to living the life they know deep down that they were meant to live. The e-mail route is not a real way to connect with those kind of people. Ideally I’d like to meet face to face with everyone, but truth be told the phone serves the purpose nicely.

During the 1/2 hour private phone consultation we will have a look at your life and see if there is something that coaching can have an impact on. Maybe you already have an idea of something you want to work on and if that’s the case then great, lets move forward because as the saying goes: haste is waste.

Take advantage of this valuable  1/2 hour phone consultation for free now while the offer still stands. Consider it my gift to you for the new year for us to explore your options for a better life.

~ Kamjah

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Living in the present is a powerful way to live. When you are present minded your body is in sync with your mind which frees you from your slavish self limiting thoughts, oppressive fears and unneeded anxieties. Being present allows you to be mentally free by completely focusing on the moment. In those present minded moments, you get to enjoy and experience life to it’s fullest and greatest potential without any self imposed negativity or doubts getting in the way.

Present minded people have their conscious mind, unconscious mind and physical body synced, as that is what allows them to stay present. A big part of making and keeping that connection is learning to trust your unconscious.

Your unconscious mind never sleeps. It’s always on and always recording even at night when your conscious mind goes to sleep. There really isn’t much that your unconscious mind isn’t aware of. When we allow ourself to relax and trust our unconscious, the answers we seek will naturally flow. One of the big issues so many have with staying present minded is knowing how to simply let go and begin trusting their unconscious. Wouldn’t you agree that it would be beneficial to let go of all your sabotaging conscious mind chatter? You know the kind that forces you to look inside to validate any and all negative thoughts you may have about yourself or that you allow others to project onto you. Once you get rid of the mind chatter, you take the first step toward clearing the communication pathways between your unconscious and conscious mind thus leading towards a more present minded life. Becoming present minded is one of the first steps toward living a better life

~ Kamjah

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 Do you love yourself? Here is a wake up call - if you don’t love yourself then you can’t truly be loving to others because you can’t give away what you don’t have. Self love is one of the first steps toward becoming a no-limit kind of person. When you love yourself, you love what you stand for, and you certainly don’t go around seeking the approval of others.

For those who are new to this topic  may confuse self love with conceit. Let me make the distinction for you now. A conceited individual is someone who relies on the approval of others. For example, if you feel the need to let people know how good looking and great you are then on the surface you may come across as one of many things (i.e. conceited..); but deep down you are unconsciously seeking the approval of others and thus being controlled by those opinions.

Side Lesson from Kamjah: Let go of approval seeking behavior. You will move faster toward your true purpose in life.

No-limit / self actualizing people essentially have a quiet love affair with themselves. If you ask a no-limit person “Do you love yourself?”, you’ll probably get an answer like: “I never though about that”, or “it’s nothing I pay attention too”, or even “of course I do”, because for them self love is already a given. The no-limit person is so busy focused on their purpose and what they are about that they don’t have time to notice what the neighbors are doing or what anybody else is saying about them.

For example, a no-limit person may show up to a party or a club dressed different from what most people are wearing. Chances are this no-limit person won’t even notice unless someone else points it out. This is because no-limit people are not focused on external appearances, and understand that dressing is just something we do based upon what we feel like wearing. They also get that true power and beauty comes from within and keep that power for themselves instead of giving it away to others. Now this is not to say that this person would show up to a formal affair wearing tennis shoes and a loin cloth. In other words this would be a person who is still trying to impress other people with their uniqueness and differences. And the fact that you have to impress other people means that others are controlling you. No-limit people have controls from within which only they have access to.

It’s amazing how once you find purpose in life so many other things fall into place on there own. Most people who live with purpose are the no-limit kind. I know for some of you it may seem hard to imagine yourself living a no-limit kind of life, yet it is possible with the right support.  Life coaching is a real way toward unlocking your personal brilliance and discovering your true life purpose; not to mention putting yourself on the path toward feeling internally complete and personally fulfilled. If you can see yourself living that way, take a second to notice how good it feels to no longer be carrying those heavy weights. The choice is up to you.

~ Kamjah

Fear is an incredibly powerful emotion.  It’s part of our emotional range as an indicator to ‘pay attention’.   For many though, fear is interpreted as a feeling of extreme discomfort and in some cases physical and mental paralysis. 

How could such a useful emotion go so wrong in so many people?  The not so surprising truth is that most people  associate toward the negative side of fear rather then the positive.  Fear was intended as a positive emotion, not one that is meant to limit our range for emotional and physical experience.

How to deal with fear:

When I’m working with clients on this specific emotion we go one of two ways and on special occasion sometimes both ways.  Those ways are: physical experience (face the fear) and NLP.

I suggest changing the way you look at fear all together.  Remind yourself that fear is nothing but a sign to pay attention as there is no need to associate any negative feelings.

Ever hear the saying “fear of the unknown”?   When we know something and understand it then we no longer fear it, but to understand something we must first be willing to explore it.  For example remember the first time you drove a car?  For many the first time was scary, but the more times you summoned up the courage to get behind the wheel and practice the more experience you gained and the less scary it became to the point where it may have become second nature.  One real way to get over your fears is to use courage and go out and do things that frighten you.   Through using courage you’ll get experience and then be left with wisdom where at that point you will no longer have the fear you set out to remove but merely an action followed up by a consequence.  On a basic level that breaks down to:  courage leads to exploration which leads to experience which leads to wisdom.  Wouldn’t you agree that having wisdom is better then the alternative?  

The other way to deal with handling specific fears is through Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP).  Using NLP we able to isolate the specific fears and eliminate them one by one, and in some cases groups at a time.  For most people one or two NLP sessions are all that are needed.  Imagine in a matter of minutes being completely rid of your fear of spiders, fear of the ocean, or some other fear you have?  NLP can do that. 

A few examples of common fears:

Fear of the ocean
Fear of spiders
Many men fear approaching women
Fear of the dark
Fear of death (this is a fear to understand and become at peace with..not go our and experience )

Now take a moment to think about the fears holding you back in your life. Do they make logical sense?  Are they based on fact or the unknown?  Imagine living without them. Thinking about that feels good I bet.  Now realize that all the times you were processing fear as a negative emotion all you were really doing was paying attention.  Remember - fear is  a sign to ‘pay attention’ and paying attention is a good thing.

~ Kamjah

“there is nothing to fear but fear itself”